Thursday, November 29, 2012

Outfitted

Sigh.  And I actually got dressed in real clothes today!  I made more of an effort because I got invited to go to the monthly Morbidity & Mortality conference over at the hospital this afternoon and I thought hey, a little professionalism never hurt in those situations.  But then I got home and did that thing where I come in the door after being at school for 10.5 hours (yes, really) and I was all like, I need to pee and then I need to take off these tights and this skirt and this sweater and this thong and this underwire bra and I need to be in sweatpants and a t-shirt NOW.

Once upon a time, this shirt belonged to the boy.  I don't drink soda.  But omigod it's so comfortable.

Dear sweatpants,
Thank you for being there for me.  Especially when I am exhausted, unshowered, and out of clean underwear.  I think our relationship is bordering on codependence but at least for the next two and a half years that I am in grad school, I really don't care.
Love,
Me


30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.
Day 11: Three years ago today.
Day 12: The last item I purchased.
Day 13: Something I'm proud of.
Day 14: Style inspiration for the season.
Day 15: Three blogs I always read.
Day 16: Someone who inspires me.
Day 17: My family.
Day 18: What I wore today  am wearing right now.

Family Ties

My family is big.

My siblings and I.  Aren't they all ridiculously tall?  In this picture, I am wearing three inch heels.  And they still tower over me.


I love them.  But my family is also this girl:


And these girls:


And the boy.  He's included now too.

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Family can be blood.  But it doesn't have to be.  Family is this:


Family is the people that care.  The people that give a shit.  I'm lucky to have so many.


30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.
Day 11: Three years ago today.
Day 12: The last item I purchased.
Day 13: Something I'm proud of.
Day 14: Style inspiration for the season.
Day 15: Three blogs I always read.
Day 16: Someone who inspires me.
Day 17: My family.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Twelve Weeks Later

When the five of us shuffled into the hospital for the first time, we were worse than useless.  We were useless but dressed in scrubs and with ID badges, giving us the profoundly misleading appearance of being way better than useless.

Our first day on the floor, only twelve short weeks ago, the following things happened in my clinical group:
A. started sweating so badly in her contact precautions gown that our preceptor had to lead her out of the room, sit her down, and take her vitals.
K. delayed going into her patient's room for so long that by the time she did, her patient just wanted to go to bed.
T. lost her stethoscope and spent an hour looking for it on every mobile computer station on the floor.
W. listened to her patient's heart with the wrong side of her stethoscope and flew into a panic when she couldn't hear any heart sounds.

And I...well, you all have heard tell of my many clinical inadequacies.

But now?  Times have changed, y'all.  And today, on our second to last day on the floor this year, I looked around at all of us and my heart swelled with pride.  My group, these girls, they inspire me so much.  Every shift, we grow and adapt in ways that seemed impossible twelve weeks ago.  I held a stack of papers for A. today while she gathered her patient's meds, donned some gloves, and headed into his room.  I stood outside and listened while she calmly and confidently asked to see his wristband, confirmed his name and birthdate, and doled out three cups of pills with grace, charm, and precision.  She knew every med, she made sure he knew what he was taking and why, and she did the whole thing without a second thought.  That might not seem like a big deal, but trust me, it is.  Or two weeks ago, T. and I gave her patient a bath and the tenderness with which she washed and combed her patient's hair while talking to her and telling her a story nearly took my breath away.  It was beautiful to see, and the patient's heart rate fell below 90 beats per minute for the first time all morning.

I know we are not nurses yet.  We have a lot of learning yet to do.  But when we're bustling around the floor, confidently heading into patients' rooms, handing out meds, emptying bedpans and changing sheets without a second thought, advocating for our patients to their doctors, looking up their labs and explaining procedures to them, ordering them meals, and flushing their IVs, I think back to the first day when we all were such disasters and my spirits lift.  These friends of mine inspire me to work harder every day.  I'm so sad that next week is our last week.


30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.
Day 11: Three years ago today.
Day 12: The last item I purchased.
Day 13: Something I'm proud of.
Day 14: Style inspiration for the season.
Day 15: Three blogs I always read.
Day 16: Someone who inspires me.

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

A Wordy Hunger

When I just cannot take another minute of pathophysiology, I let my eyes glaze over while perusing the beautiful recipes on...



And when I want to imagine that someday I'll branch out enough to try a different pie crust recipe or buy a seventh kind of flour to make one very specific scone recipe, I gaze wistfully at the recipes on...



And finally, when I need a story with my food porn eye candy or my heart hurts and I miss my nanny kids or I feel like the precariously constructed box I've built around me is crashing in, there is always...



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Because feeding the soul is just as important (or maybe even more important) than feeding the body.

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30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.
Day 11: Three years ago today.
Day 12: The last item I purchased.
Day 13: Something I'm proud of.
Day 14: Style inspiration for the season.
Day 15: Three blogs I always read.

Monday, November 26, 2012

Not Inspiring At All

At least half of my clothes don't fit me.

When I was an emaciated size 2, I convinced myself that I would never, ever, ever gain back the weight I had lost and so I got rid of almost everything I owned that was too big for me.  While I am usually such a fan of decluttering and donating, for the last few months, I have been kicking myself that I got rid of so much stuff that (whether I like it or not) I would fit into again these days.

So yeah.

Style inspiration for the season?  Not much.

I still don't like how my body looks.  I don't like what I see in the mirror.  The boy will routinely tell me to "stop mean mugging" myself in the mirror because he's a little sick and tired of me grimacing at what's looking back at me while I struggle to find clothes to wear each day.  I wind up wearing either some version of leggings and a sweater most days, or my one pair of jeans that fit, or my scrubs when I have clinical, or sweats when I just can't take it anymore and give up before I burst into tears (or after, as the case may be).

Pretty much the only time these days that I don't care what I look like in clothes is when I'm running.  Usually it's darkish, so that helps.

Sorry for the debbie downer post, you guys.  But yeah.  Sometimes recovery is awesome.  And sometimes it sucks so fucking much you want to punch it in the nads.

30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.
Day 11: Three years ago today.
Day 12: The last item I purchased.
Day 13: Something I'm proud of.
Day 14: Style inspiration for the season.

Saturday, November 24, 2012

To Be Here Now

A few weeks ago, I took the train to New York to see my dear friend, J.  It was a week after Superstorm Sandy devastated the East coast and they had managed to turn a post-Halloween costume party that was doubling as a birthday party for one of their dogs into a kind-of-fundraiser "Wear a Costume and Bring a Canned Good" party that extended the promise to lots of friends that if we provided food and booze, then they should donate a little something to the hurricane relief effort.  Oh, and everyone had to wear a mustache.  (We provided those too, lest anyone show up and lament that they couldn't wear a mustache because they just didn't own one.)

Sitting on the couch, chatting with a friend of theirs whom I hadn't met before, he said something and I replied something about one of my patients from the week before.  Then this happened:

Him: Oh, where do you work?
Me: Oh, I'm still in school, in nursing school.
Him: At NYU?
Me: No, no, I live in Connecticut, actually.  I used to live in the city, which is how I know these guys.
Him: Whereabouts in Connecticut?
Me: Um...in New Haven...
J (from across the room): She goes to Yale - Cait, you go to Yale, it's okay to tell people that!

Enter me blushing furiously, and why, exactly?  I mean, yes, I go to Yale.  But I go to grad school there, which is something that - at least in my head - is fundamentally different than coming out the other side of the lions' den that is their undergraduate admissions process.  For whatever myriad of reasons, I don't talk about where I go to school.  I don't like the connotations that the name carries, and I certainly don't think it lends me any extra clout or prestige in the nursing world.  But grad school itself (nameless or otherwise) is something of which I am intensely proud.

College was a given in my family.  Not because either of my parents finished their own college educations.  And certainly not because we could afford to be sending all seven children on to four years of post-secondary education.  No, purely because my mother was bound and determined that we would all be given the best possible future she could muster for us and so out went the TV, in came the homework and the extracurriculars and the part-time jobs and the wrinkled-up cried-over admissions essays but by golly, she did it.  We all went.  Every last stinking one of us.  And by the time I was old enough to be aware of it, the standard was set: I was going to college.

Grad school, on the other hand, was up to me.  From start to finish.  And there are days, still, where I look around at my life and I think, holy shit and Is this real? And it is!  It is real!  I actually am in grad school, becoming a nurse, and then later becoming a nurse-midwife and it's so freaking cool that it still makes me smile.  I am proud of myself for being here.  That I got myself here, all by myself.  That I'm doing this with my life.  And that when the question arises: What would you do with your life if you could do anything at all?

My answer is this.  Exactly what I'm doing right now.


30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.
Day 11: Three years ago today.
Day 12: The last item I purchased.
Day 13: Something I'm proud of.

Friday, November 23, 2012

The last item(s) I purchased

1.  Gas for my parents' car
2.  Brandy, for the fruitcakes that take from now until Christmas to be complete
3.  Crisco, for the cranberry-apple and mincemeat pies we ate yesterday (and today)
4.  Fenugreek, for a recipe I want to try
5.  Coffee.  Because I'm me.

FUN FACT: tea made from fenugreek is said to increase milk supply.  It's also a tasty addition to Indian food.


30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.
Day 11: Three years ago today.
Day 12: The last item I purchased.

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Three Years Ago

In the fall of 2009, I had...


...some truly amazing, irreplaceable friends.  They pulled me from the darkness more times than I could count.


...days, still, where I was so paralyzingly sad that I couldn't see how to keep going.  Days that felt like even a year out from being hospitalized and being on the right meds was not enough time to hold back the growling, howling, teeth-gnashing beast of crazy that had crash-landed into my life.

But - also, this:
(from my Facebook, late November, 2009) "...is exponentially happier than she was last year at this time."

I loved Alix.  And she loved me.  And three years ago today, her love was a force of good in my life that propelled me through my last (drama-filled and anxiety-packed) year at Smith.

All that said...it's good to be where I am now.

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30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.
Day 11: Three years ago today.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Eggplant Can Be Sexy

I used to loathe eggplant.  I thought it was slimy, and bitter, and rubbery and I resented its very existence in the world of food.  Sadly, eggplant can be all of those things - but it doesn't have to be.  It can be silky and smooth and smoky and - dare I say it - sexy.  Yes, sexy.

I am a firm believer that baba ganouj is better than hummus.  It's hummus's awkward cousin at the summer barbecue, who has a weird name, like Anastasia that no one can pronounce, but at the end of the movie, everyone is going to realize how much more awesome she is than her simply-named and conventionally-pretty cousin, Kimmie.

Here is the only recipe for baba ganouj you will ever need.  Originally, it came from a Moosewood cookbook and has four or more extra ingredients, like parsley and scallions and other unnecessary things.  There are five gazillion Moosewood cookbooks, so please don't ask me which one it's from because I have no idea.  All I know is that I have committed this recipe to memory and people moan over it when I bring it to potlucks, and then sidle up to me like I'm operating an undercover meth lab out of my kitchen and ask me in an undertone, "How did you make this?"  Good readers, here is how:

Preheat your oven to 400.
Take two eggplants and cut off the stem end.  Then prick holes all over the eggplants with a fork.
Put them into the oven, directly on the racks.  It's a good idea to put some tinfoil on your oven floor to catch drips.
Set your timer for at least 45 minutes, though it can take up to an hour.
When the eggplants are falling apart, practically sinking through the oven rack, and look like something dead on the side of the road - carefully take them out of the oven with some tongs and a big bowl and let them cool until you can touch them without swearing.
Scoop all of the insides into a food processor.  Make sure no skin gets in, and leave no insides behind.  Be fastidious.
Add 1/2 cup tahini, the juice of one lemon, 3 (or 5, if you're me) crushed garlic cloves, 1 tsp coarse salt,  and five or six grinds of fresh black pepper.  Whiz it up until it's smooth.  Taste and adjust seasonings.
Serve this warm with bread, pita, vegetables, a spoon, your fingers.
Prepare yourself for the moans and admiring glances at your next potluck.
If there are leftovers, eat them with a spoon, in the dark of night, with the fridge door propped open.
It will make you happy.

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30 Days Hath November
Day 01: A place I'd like to travel.
Day 02: A favourite movie.
Day 03: Something I never leave the house without.
Day 04: A friend I adore.
Day 05: My hometown.
Day 06: A book I'm reading.
Day 07: A song for the day.
Day 08: Three inspirational quotes.
Day 09: A close-up of my day.
Day 10: A favourite recipe.

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Liebster: Like Lobster, but Without Butter

Allison, over at Allison the Meep nominated me for a Liebster award.  Which is not something that comes on a roll with mayo, because that chick is so gluten free that her head would spin if you brought a bread product near her face.  What it is, however, is an award for wonderful, but lesser-known blogs of the big blogging world.  It made me smile, because my tiny corner of the internet makes me very happy but apparently also entertains a few others as well!  So I'm gonna answer my given eleven questions, and then nominate eleven five other blogs (I am sorry to say, I simply do not know 11 bloggers well enough to nominate them for this), and give them eleven questions to answer as well.  Read on.

1. What book(s) are you currently reading?
Usually (and most depressingly), my Med/Surg textbook, as discussed here.  But now that I am on break (italics are necessary because it is still so shocking that I am still very excited), I am attempting to finish The History of Love, by Nicole Krauss, a novel that I have been working on since August.  Yes, August.

2. If eating a cockroach guaranteed you and your family financial security for the rest of your lives, would you do it?
Abso-fucking-lutely.  I'm sorry, but would anyone NOT do this?  I am going to be delivering babies from my wheelchair in the senior center in order to pay off my Yale loans, you better believe I'd house some crunchy suckers in order to wipe that clean.

3. Do you have any phobias?
Phobias, no.  Fears, yes.  I'm scared of the open ocean, and sometimes heights make me queasy, but I don't rearrange my life to avoid these things.

4. If you could possess one super power, what would it be?
I used to think I'd want to be invisible, but is there anything worse than feeling like you're invisible in a room full of people normally?  Why would I want to perpetuate that feeling?  Unconventional, perhaps, but I would love to be able to function and thrive on four hours of sleep a night.  I'd sleep from 2 AM to 6 AM, and I'd be golden.  I'd get so much studying done!  It'd be awesome.

5. What is your favorite food?
Let's do this systematically.  Sweet: rhubarb pie.  Savory: cheese.  Plant-like material: tomatoes, raspberries, mangoes, avocados, brussel sprouts, butternut squash, and radishes (right?  Obviously with the radishes).

6. What do you like best about yourself?
When I go to read this question, my brain makes a farting sound.  It wants to say, "Thbpppbth...NOTHING!"  Not true, I tell Brain.  I like my nose.  It's cute.  I also like my hair.  I used to hate it, but age has improved it.  It's long, and blonde, and I've never dyed it, and it's wavy and hippie and swings around my shoulders and gets gnarly when it's a little dirty.  Also, I'm kind.  Not perfectly, and not without faults and missteps, but I am kind, and compassionate, and can be fiercely protective.  See what I did there, Brain?  Shut your pie hole.

7. Do you give money to homeless people when they ask? Why or why not?
Only once.  To a man in the subway station I passed through every day, I saw him, his sign had only one word on it: AIDS.  I put a $20 bill in his cup.  The reason I don't usually give money is because I used to volunteer in a homeless shelter, and I heard firsthand what most people do with the money they panhandle for.  It wasn't pretty.  I'd rather volunteer.  Or if I have extra food, I'll always ask if they're hungry, if they'd like an untouched sandwich or a fresh piece of fruit.

8. If money was not an issue and all of your basic needs were taken care of, what would you do with your life?
This question makes me happy, because truly, truly all those things being taken care of - I'd still want to deliver babies.  I'd love to be able to do it for free, of course, but no such luck, future clients of mine.  Maybe I'd love to work a little less and have a few more babies of my own, but hey.  If it's not one thing, it's another, right?

9. When do you feel the most clarity?
About mile five of a run.  Everything has (mostly) stopped hurting at that point, and the mind clouds drift away.  I would run forever, if I could just stay right there.

10. There are 3 contestants, and only one can win: cake, pie, or cookies?
This is not even a question.  Pie.  Made by me.  I am cocky about my pie skills.  Yes, yes I am.

11. Squirrels: Love or hate?
Are squirrels like a thing?  Do people love them or hate them?  I find them mildly irritating.  Get out of the road!  Stop taunting my dog!  That kinda thing.  I reserve hate for things like when people touch my belly button.  Now THAT is something to get fired up about.


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Nominations

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Their questions, should they choose to accept them:
1.  What is the correct way to pronounce Nutella?  (NEW-tella, or NUH-tella??)
2.  How do you sign off on emails?
3.  When is the last time you were proud of yourself?
4.  Do you ever talk to yourself?
5.  What do you eat for breakfast most days?
6.  How does it make you feel when someone tells you that you're beautiful?
7.  You don't need to elaborate on who you would say this to, but what's one thing you need to say, and haven't yet (or never will)?
8.  Tell me a memory that involves crazy weather.
9.  Which is better, mechanical pencils or good old-fashioned No. 2's?
10.  Should clean underwear be folded?
11.  What do you do when you can't fall asleep?